Thursday, May 5, 2011

Mean Girls

Anyone who has daughters knows exactly what I mean. You cannot escape them. Perhaps, like me, you have been one. I try to teach my daughters to not be mean girls. Nothing positive is gained through meanness - and some of those 'mean girl' things haunt me more than thirty years later. That being said, you be the judge of how well I'm doing.

Last week, my youngest and a friend were playing. Not long after my older kids came home from school the little girl said to my teenage daughter, "Who taught you to be mean?" My teenager denied it and I just laughed thinking, "My husband is right, the apple didn't fall far from the tree." Report Card: F.

Looks like I've got some work to do. Can I start by apologizing to Lisa Allen, Lisa Newey, and my first best friend ever (didn't she know that I wanted to be just like her? - I always cut my hair like hers, bought shoes like hers, etc.) Karen Stakebake. I can't take back those things I said and the horrible things I did (although I gladly would), but know in my heart of hearts, I'm so sorry.

So my challenge to you is to find time to share the kindness this next week and Write On my friends!


  1. You're showing a great character growth (as a writer, I love that term!) by apologizing. Although we're expected to "know better," sometimes we end up doing so only after many years have wised us up and matured us.

    I apologize in turn to Nicole Leonard. I wasn't so much mean to her as I just didn't want to be friends, and resorted to mean ways to avoid her. It's haunted me ever since. I've searched for her online several times so I could apologize in person, but I've never found her. Maybe someday I'll have the opportunity; for now, I'll have to live with the knowledge that I'm sincere about it.

  2. Thanks for sharing Kristin! I've tried to find them too and hope to someday be able to apologize in person. In the 'mean'time I've got to work on my girls.


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